Rules of Gender Games: Desire is gradually replaced by love

Yesterday dinner, there was a married woman to make such a question: Now a lot of men dating women, are, with the purpose; purpose not reached soon pay any attention to a woman. How about you guys in the end? 

I noticed a man she said, are basically married men. Such problems of interpretation are my strengths: 

There are inputs must have output, which is the issue of gender-effective exchanges. For men, he deliberately invite a woman to dinner, parties or travel, certainly because he saw the woman, and saw some possibilities, he hopes to reach a tentative investment behavior that possibility as soon as possible (physical relationship); once he found no input-output, and that he would not do business at a loss, and immediately choose to give up, instead looking to go into the next target. For example, married women to accept the invitation to the above, in the face of explicit tease men, it will say "I can not, and you happen to any physical relationship, we can only be an ordinary friend," which is equal to read like a broken man, men do not see the output of hope, of course, choose to give up, and soon pay any attention to a woman. 

Married men more realistic, lack the patience to wait. A young man, a man will wait for their favorite woman on one, two or even a long time too, it was because he was eager to get love, longing and the woman he loves living together. Love is a lifetime thing, so an unmarried man can do this pursuit, and so on a woman for a long time. But a married man is different, he wanted neither love nor marriage, but the desire, desire this kind of thing once launched, often impatient, sometimes a night can not stand, let alone a year, two years? So, expect a married man for a woman to wait a year for two years, almost a fairy tale, in general, he was anxious to see the results, and even have no patience to wait for a month; if he really could very patient to pursue you for up to six months, partly because your body conditions are good enough to make him obsessed, not until the goal; on the other hand he had met another woman from there, he was full guy, so he was have the patience to complete the cat to catch mice in the game. 

As a woman, if your body in general terms, men originally just want to spring once, once you tweaking for the state, or to say "impossible" In this case, the man is certainly not rare, turned away, women are not everywhere it? He did not bother with expensive and time-consuming you dwell. 

Desire is gradually replaced by love, to become the game's main rules of the sexes. In my opinion, love is often a lack of desire product. In a traditional society, a person can only be obtained through legitimate spouse physiological satisfaction, which led to widespread repression of desire, especially women; long-term results of premarital physiological repressed, resulting in love is very easy to produce, a person of the opposite sex miss too for a long time, looking forward to long, savings need to express too much passion - which is basically all of those classic love story appeared in traditional society, and love are most likely to produce the reasons for love. Now it's different, and now the concept of open, premarital, extramarital sex in general, can be released at any time and the desire to meet, the result is physical desire lust fully diluted, digestion, or covering, the possibilities and potential of love generally lower, and the adult world gradually becomes Be realistic and utilitarian, one of its main sign is replaced by the desire to love, to become the main rules of the game between the sexes. 

So, you expect a married adult hard in pursuit of you, waiting for you, and for you Shoushenruyu, this is extremely unlikely, almost in fantasy; the reason is very simple, just wanted to meet the desires of men, but to the man's woman Options many, he has no need to wait for a long time what a woman; when he rebuffed in front of you, he will turned to another or some woman who, for the man, he always found a woman in the shortest possible time to meet their own so, he did not need to who he is. 

Desire, itself implies efficiency, but also need efficiency; therefore, my suggestion is, for men, especially married men, women had better not have unrealistic fantasies.